Just because someone seems okay doesn’t mean that they are, from the outside everything may seem normal in a person’s life, but underneath that exterior, there could be something happening like not showing up at work or not interacting with their co-workers. That is why connection is so important in suicide prevention.
Why People Choose Silence
Speaking up about experiencing a difficult time can be hard for many reasons, one of those reasons could be that they think that others may judge them or that no one would understand their burden and if they could just hold on a little bit longer it wouldn’t be such a huge deal to burden their co-workers. It is these thoughts that keep people from sharing what is happening in their life, even if they need help.
Notice The Changes
No one expects you to be an expert at spotting potentially suicidal behavior, however, you may notice more withdrawn behavior in someone who previously seemed more social.
Maybe someone who used to have an opinion about everything is now more hesitant to share their thoughts, or someone who used to be more concerned about others is suddenly more focused on their own problems.
Any of these changes could signal that a person may need more support now than they did before. It doesn’t mean that they’re suicidal, but it might be a good idea to ask if they’re okay if you notice a change in them.
Having the Hard Conversation
Conversations about suicide can feel uncomfortable, and it is normal to be unsure of what to say. The conversation does not have to be long or perfect. What matters most is listening without judgment and taking the person’s concerns seriously.
If you are concerned that someone may be thinking about suicide, ask them directly: “Are you thinking about suicide?” Listen carefully to their response and help them connect with appropriate support rather than trying to manage the situation alone. In the United States, you can call or text 988 together. If there is immediate danger, call 911 or your local emergency services.
Why Connection Matters
When someone is feeling disconnected it can be a big burden to bear, a simple connection with co-workers could be enough to brighten someone’s day.
Something as simple as a friend saying “Hey how are you really?” or a manager genuinely saying that they are here if you need someone to talk to can help someone feel more supported.
Suicide prevention doesn’t have to be complicated. In most cases, it is simply about connections and making sure that people know that there is someone there for them. You never know what someone may be going through, all it takes is a simple connection to let someone know you care about them and that they are not alone.
If you or someone you know is struggling or having thoughts of suicide, call or text the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 988 or visit 988lifeline.org. If there is immediate danger, call 911.